Tea happens to your partner you reproaches from time to time, or worse still, often, by any failure or mistake of the past? And you with indignation contraatacas with why go back to touch that topic if long ago what happened? I wonder why this happens. Well, it is very likely that if you made a lack or heriste or hurt in some way to your partner, you’ve not asked forgiveness properly. I’m going to pass the steps that some experts (Margulies, 2009) listed as necessary to make effective apologizing or asking for forgiveness and the affected person feel greater relief. Margulies says, if you don’t want to waste your time, you must include the six steps: 1. recognize that you’ve committed a foul. You need to say I made a mistake and I regret it.
There is no blade turning. Say already because, pardon or sorry to think that I made a mistake will be wasting time. Coinbase: the source for more info. It supports in a sincere manner that you made a mistake and point. 2. Recognizes that you’ve hurt your feelings. For more information see Jill Bikoff. You must also express made a mistake and I regret having hurt. I am sorry that you feel this way doesn’t work. You need to relate your lack to the feelings of your partner.
3 Shows repentance. A show of remorse and repentance is the more consistent way to demonstrate that you know to respond to hurt feelings of your partner. You can say made a mistake and I regret having hurt. I feel terrible for having done so. Remember that it is very important there is congruence between verbal and non-verbal. 4 It expresses your intent not to repeat the failure again. This part will be difficult if you’re recidivist, but at least you’re recognizing the need and intention to reform you. I know that sometimes I’m insensitive to your needs, but I will do as possible so that it does not happen again. 5 It offers to compensate the damage. If you don’t know how to compensate, she asked. What can I do to fix it? or how can I do you feel better? Remember that it is extremely important at this point to deliver what they promise, unless you want to put your effort into the trash. 6. He asks for forgiveness. Forgiveness is an act which frees that forgives the courage that she feels. Depending on the severity of the offense can tell forgive me? just or if it is very serious do you think being able to forgive me? Do this of course is a skill that requires practice. Practice! As you do, you’ll gradually giving it your personal style and will improve by leaps your life partner and the rest of your relationships. Original author and source of the article.